I spend a lot of time in my head - I'm sure if you're close enough to me, you've seen how I withdraw into myself or disappear to sit in the quiet for awhile.
Lately I've been getting out of my head - I went down to Dallas last week to get the rest of my belongings out of storage so that I could start to settle in up here.
All of the transition is hard. I've made the trip between Virginia and Dallas several times now, just in the last year. It's nearly 1200 miles back and forth.
I'm figuring out a few things about what I need when all of this shifting and transition takes place:
1. I need to feel grounded, somehow. While I don't see myself settling down anywhere for very long, I *do* need a home-base. I need something solid to return to.
2. That solidity can look like a few different things: a good routine where I focus on self-care and good habits (especially in the mornings and evenings), quiet spaces, being outdoors, and the love of my friends and my amazing family.
3. I'm struggling with finding people here in the area to really connect with. I think I'm making some progress -- I have a part time job, and interacting with the lovely folks of Roanoke has been a blessing. I'm starting to find good people who I vibe with. But those things can take time to build up, too.
4. I need to be patient with myself, overall. I am growing and learning and have taken massive leaps in the last few years. My divorce didn't happen overnight. My career shift didn't either. Healing from all of those bumps and bruises does take a little while, Rachel. Stop pushing so hard, and you'll find that growth can blossom from the time you take to heal, as well.
5. That means I need to chill the f*ck out. I've burnt out so many times in the last few years -- I broke out in hives at one point back in 2015 and wondered what I was allergic to.
Stress. I'm allergic to stress. My body tells me when I'm burning out, and it's time I started listening.
Things like regular writing habits (JUST Y'ALL WAIT), remembering to breathe, having FUN, and opening myself up to good people (and reconnecting with the ones I've left behind) will help to serve me.
And hopefully sharing some of these insights and pain points will help you in some way, too.